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Mar032017

Wenger – a specialist in narcissism/protest 7th March

Once labelled a “specialist in failure” by Jose Mourinho, Wenger yesterday rebranded himself as a “specialist in masochism” – pointing to his years of “sacrifice” as Arsenal coach.

Judging by Wenger’s latest round of ludicrous comments, I can only conclude that he is not a specialist in masochism but a specialist in narcissism. On the subject of management, he remarked, "Basically you get 90 per-cent aggravation and 10 per-cent job satisfaction and you have to give everything in your life for that. I believe as well it allowed me to get to the next level as a human being, to develop my strengths in what makes a human being great as well.”

Next-level human? Seems strange coming from an (alleged) adulterer who physically manhandles match officials and other managers, and has been repeatedly banned by the FA and UEFA for verbal abuse.

The only thing that's next-level is Wenger’s narcissism. The man’s delusion knows no bounds: "To get the best out of people, that is absolutely fantastic. And of course you have disappointments, with people, with results. But it is as well a fantastic opportunity in life to go for what is really great in human beings, to get yourself to the next level always, to improve, to invent yourself, to push your limits further up and not to have an average life.”

How many players has Wenger improved in the last decade to justify that absurd claim? What is this mythical “next level” he keeps speaking of? Where’s the personal improvement - the reinvention? What limits has he surpassed recently?

These comments epitomise Wenger’s delusions of grandeur. A legend in his own mind, he is also a classic manipulative narcissist.

Author Shahida Arabi goes into some depth on what she calls the “malignant narcissist” in her book POWER: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse. The following extracts appear to be a frighteningly accurate portrayal of Wenger, and how Arsenal fans have become the victims of his personality disorder:

Projection: “One sure sign of toxicity is when a person is chronically unwilling to see his or her own shortcomings and uses everything in their power to avoid being held accountable for them. This is known as projection. Projection is a defense mechanism used to displace responsibility of one’s negative behavior and traits by attributing them to someone else. It ultimately acts as a digression that avoids ownership and accountability. Rather than acknowledge their own flaws, imperfections and wrongdoings, malignant narcissists prefer that their victims take responsibility for their behavior and feel ashamed of themselves. Narcissistic abusers love to play the “blameshifting game.” Objectives of the game: they win, you lose, and you or the world at large is blamed for everything that’s wrong with them.”

Blanket statements and generalizations: “Malignant narcissists aren’t always intellectual masterminds – many of them are intellectually lazy. Rather than taking the time to carefully consider a different perspective, they generalize anything and everything you say, making blanket statements that don’t acknowledge the nuances in your argument or take into account the multiple perspectives you’ve paid homage to. If you bring up to a narcissistic abuser that their behavior is unacceptable for example, they will often make blanket generalizations about your hypersensitivity or make a generalization such as, “You are never satisfied,” rather than addressing the real issues at hand.”

Changing the subject to evade accountability: "This type of tactic is what I like to call the “What about me?” syndrome. It is a literal digression from the actual topic that works to redirect attention to a different issue altogether. Narcissists don’t want you to be on the topic of holding them accountable for anything, so they will reroute discussions to benefit them."

Covert and overt threats: “Narcissistic abusers and otherwise toxic people feel very threatened when their excessive sense of entitlement, false sense of superiority and grandiose sense of self are challenged in any way. Rather than tackle disagreements or compromises maturely, they set out to divert you from your right to have your own identity and perspective by attempting to instil fear in you about the consequences of disagreeing or complying with their demands. To them, any challenge results in an ultimatum and “do this or I’ll do that” becomes their daily mantra.”

Condescending sarcasm and patronizing tone: “Sarcasm can be a fun mode of communication when both parties are engaged, but narcissists use it chronically as a way to manipulate you and degrade you. Forget that the toxic person constantly has temper tantrums every time their big bad ego is faced with realistic feedback – the victim is the hypersensitive one, apparently.”

In an attempt to end the living nightmare that any normal, sane and rational Arsenal fan is going through at present, the Online Gooner has organised an anti-Wenger protest. You can join them just after 6pm on 7th March 2017 outside Highbury’s old East Stand, from where they “intend to walk together to the Armoury at the new stadium and make the point, as loudly as possible, that Arsène Wenger should not be offered a new contract and that he should leave at the end of this season.”

I’ll be doing my best to attend this event.

Note: Arsenal Truth is now on Twitter @TruthArsenal.

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Reader Comments (28)

"Doing my best to attend this event"?? Fuck me, you should be leading the procession mate.

March 3, 2017 | Unregistered Commenterjohn cheese

Good article. Wenger is nothing but a fraud. Really looking forward to his demise and hope it comes sooner rather than later.

March 3, 2017 | Unregistered Commenterdev

A really pathetic article. I don't understand why people like you don't just go and support someone else, all you are doing is helping to do is undermine the team and the club.

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AT

You're undermining the team and the club by perpetually supporting the malignant narcissist in charge of it.

March 3, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterPeter Bellamy

Next Level Human?!?! Really??

As if somehow everybody else is beneath him . The man is sick in his head.

It really is beyond me how anyone can still as much as listen to this man.

Its a beautiful thing to seem him get embarrassed.

March 3, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterMr.J

Brilliant article - absolutely spot on. You should have done it as a guess who item with the answer at the end - everyone would identify the old fool straightaway!!

March 3, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterAndy B

Wonderful article and eerily accurate. That is literally, the definition of Wenker. Wow.

March 3, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterRaskolnikov

So Wenger has (allegedly) turned down £30m/year to manage in China. I'm sure AKBs will tell you it shows his loyalty, but of course the real reason is he wouldn't enjoy total control and a no pressure job. I hope we finish outside the top 4 (behind Spurs) and lose to Spurs in the FA Cup final, that's the only way I can see Wenger possibly leaving.

March 4, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterChris J

Wenger definitely has and continues to strive to "reach the next level".................as far as his salary is concerned.

March 4, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterMikeSA

What John Cheese said, for me.

March 4, 2017 | Unregistered Commentermarinersmullet

So Wenger drops Sanchez against one of the best sides in the league and wonders why people question his ability to manage the side.

March 4, 2017 | Unregistered Commenterhenry8th

I'd love Alexis to stay, but I'd understand if he left. Unlike Wenger, he's a winner.

March 5, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterChris J

Great Article AT, despite what Peter Bellamy has to say above. What an idiot.

It describes Wenger perfectly.

The Jake Humphries interview is a classic example of many of the traits listed.

March 5, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterJacko

Just how low is this guy prepared to go? As for Mr Peter Bellamy (any relation to David?), please find time to write a counter argument so we can all pass judgement, otherwise keep your spineless remarks to yourself and go back into your little closet and make yourself a mug of tea!! DOOMSDAY IS APPROACHING, yippee!!!!!!!!!

March 5, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterMICHAEL.B

Anyone else get the feeling that Wenger leaked the story about the Sanchez training ground bust up as part of a plan to manage his summer exit whilst making the player look unprofessional? This has the added bonus of deflecting blame from the manager when Arsenal fail to make the CL.

No doubt Ozil is in the same position. Both players are appalled by the mess around them and have already decided to leave. This is poor management by Wenger, he should be trying to get the best out of both of them to ensure the best possible end to another joke of a season but instead is trying to manipulate the narrative to cover his own ass.

It looks like he is trying to cling on for future seasons.

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AT

I doubt he's trying to engineer their exit. Without Sanchez, Arsenal are mid-table, so if he decided to stay on his next few seasons would be a living hell.

March 6, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterGunnergettheresomeday

What I mean is that both Ozil and Sanchez have already decided to go. Wenger feels betrayed and will try to make them both look bad as a convenient excuse for another poor season. No-one expects those players to stay beyond the summer so it won't take anyone to engineer their exit. They're gone. And no one can blame them.

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AT

That would make him a vindictive malignant narcissist.

March 6, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterGunnergettheresomeday

Freely admit I've lost the plot with Arsenal. Not in an emotional way, more in a total indifference kind of way. I will see their scores and a victory brings no satisfaction, much the same as a defeat brings no displeasure.

Actually, I feel like I'm losing the plot with football full stop - it was crazy beforehand but now it's gone beyond that. It is a parallel universe to the rest of us, it has its own rules and its own way of behaviour. I just find it all really galling.

My major concern is whether the fire in my belly for Arsenal, which is clearly close to being fully extinguished, can be reignited. Wenger has to go, totally agree, but it has to be wholesale changes for Arsenal to be reborn.

Under Kroenke and his cronies, any new manager will be a Wenger personality doppleganger. We need someone at the very top who will make the right noises, make bold decisions and give us the feeling they actually give a shit. Anything is better than nothing.

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AT

Ultimately, the fans need to transgress from complaining to protesting. To say we are powerless is completely false. The fans get whatever they're willing to put up with.

March 6, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterAJL

Whether a premeditated bust up or not, it really only highlights how cynical the game has become. It's really quite sad that a reason for something happening can be blighted with sinister undertones in this way.

The problem Arsenal would face if Sanchez leaves is who will score the goals. For what it's worth, I think he overworks his footwork and time on the ball, often resulting in losing possession in troublesome areas.

He tracks back well, he scores goals. This is why it's always overlooked. But he does do it every game, multiple times. It's highly frustrating. In many respects Ramsey, had a similar season a couple of years ago, but I digress. If Sanchez stayed another year he would most likely become a pitiful shadow of the player he was when he arrived.

Whether this is down to other teams 'finding him out' or just poor tactics from Wenger remains to be seen. One thing is certain, the story would be spun to suit whichever agenda it sits with best.

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AT

There's no way on earth Sanchez will be allowed to go into his final season with his contract unsigned, or Ozil.

March 6, 2017 | Unregistered Commenterjohn cheese

This article also describes a certain orange orang-utan...

March 6, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterChris J

Don't recall saying fans were powerless AT. Personally, at my own insular level my indifference now permeates into not giving a shit and not expending any more energy into the shell of a club that is Arsenal.

That I will have to leave to more die hard and emotionally invested fans than me, and I wish them all the success in that.

March 6, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterAJL

That is what Arsenal have become unfortunately, a comedy show.

A club that the whole of Europe, if not the world, is strikingly laughing at…

What is even more galling, is now the farcical shit shower of a show that OGL Wenger has kindly bestowed upon us, for the best part of twelve excruciating fornicating years, has seeped into the mainstream media..

Pundits and journalists,circling like vultures are starting to sharpen their talons, salivating at the lips, ready to devour the carcass that’s about to be delivered to them on a silver platter.

It’s a black comedy... a tragic one at that.

I personally believe the Sanchez drama has proved a bridge too far for Arsene (so I hope). The final straw that ultimately breaks the camel's back for the fans. The damn that overflows/breaks..

Re:-
Ashley Cole
PV4
TH14
Cesc
Nasri
RVP

All unceremoniously dumped, castigated into the woods. Seen as betrayers, traitors, mercenaries. Shoved out of the back door so the club would have us believe - not buying into the club's philosophy. Only the naive and the gullible fell for such tricks propagated by Club Prada (Arsene FC /Arsenal FC) and now we have the Sanchez saga gate LOL.

The ultimate dismantling of a giant ego, the press are smelling blood. But let’s not forget, Arsene is the master of digging himself out of a stupendous great hole.

A heroic loss to Bayern Munich, a late rally for top four place and possibly, just possibly an FA Cup trophy. Then suddenly the pendulum swings in the geriatric’s favour.

The narcissist lives to fight another day. Or rather, he lives to get another two-year contract worth another 20 million pounds. Thus subjecting us to more magic roundabout torture for another 24 months.

And the gullible, fickle, topsy turvy fans hail him as the second coming. Stay tuned for this topsy turvy season called the Arsene Mayhem WTF Magic!!

March 7, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterPhD07

well... errrrr..... overall I belieeeeeeeeeeeeve you are dishonest to your federation......errrrrrrr.....as well I belieeeeeeeeeeeeeeeve I am dishonest to my wife....errrrrrr......why do you look at me?

March 7, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterWrinkly Voyeur

10-2 over two legs. Fucking hell, just go Wenger right now and take all the pansy players with you.

March 7, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterChris J

JUST GO AWAY WENGER. That's all I can muster.

March 7, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterNic

On balance and looking across both legs, we probably didn't deserve to progress through to the next round, at the expense of Bayern.

March 8, 2017 | Unregistered Commentermarinersmullet

Read AJL's post. Sadly I have to say that I have already had it all extinguished. I'm no longer sure that Wenger (by far the leading cause of me going through the phases of grief re AFC) going can reignite.

After two seasons of utter indifference, I have found another (not Premier League) team to follow and re-found my love of football and supporting a team. The players are not as skilled, but they have heart and desire, the manager is honest and focused, and the team play for each other, and the fans.

It is the total opposite of AFC, and I am not sure that I will sacrifice my new love for an ex-wife, even a reformed one...

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AT

You're not the first person to tell me they've opted to support teams in lower leagues.

March 8, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterCHGooner

I see Wenger is blaming the ref again.

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AT

Even though it was the correct decision.

March 8, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterChris J

Wenger's hubris is unreal. Also a fantasist, accepting no blame whatsoever, never mind the reality that everyone else can see. He is down but certainly not out yet and just needs any excuse (however tiny) to inflict himself upon us for another two years. He will bide his time, hope for a mini revival - FA Cup, top four finish and then put pen to paper with absolutely no sense of shame. He may of course put pen to paper come what may - I certainly wouldn't put it past him. That is why protests are required at each and every game, and if the team can conspire to lose every game from now until the end of the season I wouldn't be too upset. Wenger out is the most important requirement and over-shadows everything else. Come on Lincoln!

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AT

Hopefully there will be protests before all the home games. It's very important that as many fans attend these protests as possible. The media under-reported the size of the protest against Bayern. Being there, I thought there was at least 400-500, rather than the 100-200 they are reporting, but it's is still a pitiful amount.

March 10, 2017 | Unregistered Commenter1970Gooner

Brilliant article - absolutely spot on. You should have done it as a guess who item with the answer at the end - everyone would identify the old fool straightaway!!

March 30, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterAbdul

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